We get it. Writing a bio section or answering a profile prompt is hard. You’re expected to be witty, interesting AND express who you are in less space than the ingredients list of a chocolate bar (though ingredients lists can be more interesting than some of the bios we’ve seen).
It can be tempting to just rely on your photos or do it later, but having a blank or non-existent profile section makes you seem lazy at best, boring at worst.
Why having a good bio is so important
It’s important to remember you're going to be compared to hundreds of other profiles, and a lot of them will have as good photos (if not better) but having an interesting bio will make you stand out from a sea of otherwise cliche, dry profile.
Good bios get you more matches but also, more importantly, better matches. Matches that are better suited to you because they’re attracted to what they’ve learnt about you from your bio and can see what you have in common.
A good bio also keeps giving even after you match. Trying to strike up a conversation with someone who has one word answers and mirror selfies is infinitely harder than someone who gives detailed descriptions of who they are and interesting stories that show off their character.
By leaving a bio blank, or not bothering to come up with anything creative, you’re basically attracting that same lack of effort straight into your DMs. Self sabotage at its finest.
So you’re convinced right? Time to write those bios? Oh, you still need some help on what to actually write.
Tips for creating a good dating profile bio:
- Use specifics to help you stand out. It’ll make a dull sentence sound much more exciting, so instead of the boring “I like sports” why not say “You can usually find me cheering (and losing my voice) alongside my local football team. You’ll know if we lose.”
- Be honest. There’s no point creating a facade on your dating profile, you’re looking for someone who will accept you for yourself, not someone else. You know, like when Shrek turned himself into a hot human for Fiona but she already liked him the way he was. THAT’S the kinda love we’re searching for.
- Show your passion. Your interests are what make you who you are. Expressing what you love and enjoy is something potential partners will find attractive. So if you love music, talk about your favourite artists. But if your passion is some-what frowned upon, like spending your entire weekend glued to COD and not making any connection to the outside world, then maybe keep that one to yourself for a bit.
- Focus on you, not your match. It’s ok to include a little bit about who you’re looking for, especially if it also says something about who you are, but don’t make your whole profile about it. Otherwise you’re not telling people why they should match with you!
- Don’t be negative. A negative Nancy is more likely to get a rejection than a match. Positivity is a much more attractive trait in a partner.
- Watch out for spelling and grammar mistakes. We’re not going to get into the whole their, there or they're argument (though surveys have found that you’re more likely to be rejected if you use the wrong ones!) but you do need to make sure you double check and re-read your profile. Mistakes stand out…in a bad way.
- Oversharing. You don’t want to give everything away too easily. Leave a bit of mystery so your matches are intrigued and want to find out more. Oh, and (if we have to make it obvious) putting things like your number and contact information is a straight up NO.
- Try to be unique. Talk about something that is unique to you and couldn’t be said of most of the population. We all love food (if we didn’t we would die), we’re yet to find someone against taking annual leave and going abroad, and apparently most people are looking for their partner in crime. These answers won’t help you stand out, you’ve been warned.
- Avoid cliches. Who doesn’t love to laugh, enjoy travelling and watch The Office? These types of answers won’t help you stand out and can actually make you seem pretty boring. So try something more unique and personal to you instead
There we have it, you’re all set for creating a tip-top dating bio to really make your profile POP.
Team Elate x